Sharon - see my answer to "My washer won't drain?". My bet is not your filter but the impeller. In any case its the same process for getting the fileter out. Good luck - and how come there are so many women with washing machine probs? Aren't there any handymen around anymore? Maybe I'll become one :-)
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