Yes you did...... but you must understand that we all share a duty of care policy toward posters regarding mains voltages,your wording suggests you are not competent at switching interface circuit design and build.
Elmdene,CQR,Honeywell and many more all do 240vac interfaces with low voltage norm/pulse triggers.
CPC farnel sell the relays and bases and so do many other suppliers if you search the net.
Another thing,we have all been down that 16th edition route and are familiar with outstanding IEC/CENELEC level regulations and their pending amendments.
Most of the guys on here who answer your post are NAPIT/ELECSA or NICEIC registered and most have quantum physics degree not to mention our NACOSS/ NSI gold registrations,so for your friend to say "you are asking the wrong people" I find an insult.
I will also remind you this is a DIY forum where folk post with limited skills, some needing component level advice like your self which we answer but bare in mind the safety factors and risks associated.
Ok so you say " your not going to blow yourself up" but how we know that for sure?,16th ed mate your still a puppy and have a lot to learn, either buy the proper thing designed for the job or play with low voltage switching circuits as gts has mentioned then
progress when you have better understanding,because if you did at this stage then you would know what components to use.
Be safe.
e manno
December 2013