You say...
im now guesing this is my problem..
And it may well be your problem - with a burn hole in it then it will certainly need to be replaced but...
The damage may be a symptom of the fault rather than the cause... Some component failed - too much current was allowed to flow through the relay and it blew up.
If you just replace the relay there's a strong chance that the new one will also self destruct because of the underlying fault.
But you may get lucky...
As for a replacement - the designer / manufacturer will have specified a commercially available component - your replacement need not necessarily be of the same brand - just take it to a Hobby Electronic store like Maplins and ask them to match it.
Good Luck...
May 2017